It can certainly be a challenge living with roommates (here’s looking at you basically everyone I lived with in college) but I wouldn’t even begin to know how to handle this weird roomie situation and it makes me grateful to never have had to deal with something like this.
This boyfriend in the story sounds like a full-blown creep and I wouldn’t be comfortable coming home to find someone like this constantly in my space.
A woman set up her roommate’s boyfriend to prove he keeps hitting on her, and now she’s being unfairly blamed for it all.
“I’m Sam, my roommate’s name is Lauren, and her boyfriend’s name is Mark,” she starts out her post by saying.
“Lauren and Mark have been dating for maybe four months. Mark always hits on me. Like always.”
“As soon as Lauren walks away, Mark is laying it on thick with compliments, and asking when our lease is up.”
“I wear a lot of body-con and sometimes low cut clothing, so I expect to get glances maybe mild staring.”
“But this guy is very obviously hitting on me, and often times in ways that make me uncomfortable, especially since he is always at our apartment.”
“I have told Lauren several times that Mark hits on me, and she just rolls her eyes. She doesn’t believe me, which is confusing to me.”
“Lauren and I have been roommates for five years. In that time she has dated three other guys, and I have never complained about this before.”
“So yesterday she tells me that Mark is coming over. I was like, great, I told her if she would just walk upstairs in our apartment building, and tell Mark that she was going around the block, she would walk in and see him hitting on me. She actually agreed to do it to “humor” me.”
“Mark gets to the apartment, and I am just doing the dishes, I tell him that Lauren went to the store up the block, but she is really right outside the door.”
“He sits at the counter and starts chatting with me normally, then the conversation turns to him hitting on me.”
“Normally I just walk away from Mark, but I endured it so that Lauren would see/hear.”
“She came in and told Mark to go to her room. Then she starts yelling at ME. Saying I saying I tried to seduce him and that I dressed like a sl*t.”
“And I’m like “I always dress like a sl*t Lauren! Who cares! Your boyfriend is hitting on me!” We argued and both said some shitty stuff to each other.”
“She and Mark are staying in her bedroom and we haven’t spoken to each other since.”
“As I’m thinking about it, I’m wondering if I am an a**hole for even trying to do this but at the same time I think she s*cks for not believing me in the first place.”
“I live in New York. I love my neighborhood I don’t want to have to find a new roommate because of this idiot.”
One person replied to Sam with, “Your roommate needs to take her blinders off, 5 years living together she should know you better then anyone & if this was the first time you’ve ever complained about one of her boyfriends she’s being naive. ”
Another person said, “The roommate needs to thank her for showing her the dead weight she needs to drop.”
Someone else weighed in with, “Have you tried pointing out to her that, if this dude is hitting on her roommate, he’s also definitely hitting on other random women whenever they aren’t together?”